And here we go with the 4th of my Life coaching tools giveaway PROOF4U which is focused on eradicating self-sabotage in relationships whether that's at work, in friendships or where naked stuff tends to be involved.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that your sabotaging behaviours are not who you are! If you are taking a look at yourself, you are in the minority and are obviously willing and able to make profound changes in your ways of relating.

Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you tend to do or say things to throw yourself off track even when, on the surface, things are going well?

Your fears or resistance to taking positive steps in relationships might be triggered by a number of things, such as:

“It has to be perfect or what’s the point in seeing how it goes?”


“Once someone knows me, he or she will leave me. I will always be left. I'm not relationship material.”


“I will lose my freedom. I will have to give myself up to keep the relationship and I'm not doing that for anyone!”


“Being rejected is too painful. I don't want to take the chance of getting that badly hurt so why take the chance?”


One of the things that may help you understand your self-sabotaging behaviour is recognising you’re actually trying to protect yourself rather than hinder yourself when you self-sabotage.

When it comes to the topic of self-sabotage and relationships, Margaret Paul, Ph.D, and bestselling author has provided some fantastic insight that I’ve used to support and facilitate life coaching with my clients that are working towards improving relationships or moving on from break-ups.  Today's free tips download is based on her wealth of ground breaking work so do take a look and digest the ways you can eradicate the behaviours that are slowing you down.

Let me know what you think guys!

Love Lucy xo

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